Newly Diagnosed Stage 3 Invasive Ductal Breast Cancer....
My husband and I found out about a month ago that I have Stage 3 Invasive Ductal Breast Cancer. It still doesn’t seem real at times, but when we go to am appointment and hear unkind news, the tears flow and then I pick myself up and carry on with my day. I chose to not tell anyone until after I decided on the Doctor and Facility that I wanted to care for me. I did not want any outside influences, as my family can be very dramatic and this would of only made a difficult decision making situation all that much harder. I just found out that there is a spot on my liver as well as my hip, however, my Dr. seems pretty positive that it is not cancer. I have a long family history of cancer on both sides, and although my Dr. and I know that this will need to have further testing we are confident on concentrating on the Breast at this point. I do believe that eventually, the liver and hip will succumb to some form of cancer at some point, but it is in the cards to be dealt with. My aunt passed away at the age of 35 from Cervical Cancer and my mom has been in remission for Breast Cancer for 3 years and she is 73. I as well as my husband have a GREAT sense of humor and I intend to lead a normal life as possible, working, reading, gardening etc. We make people laugh everywhere we go and will continue to do so as much as we can.
Any positive thoughts or suggestions are always welcome! Tomorrow is Genetics Testing and a Brain MRI.
ENJOY the DAY! BE NICE TO EACH OTHER.
Tammy L. Egan
Hi Tammy. I got the generics testing done. Found out i don’t carry the gene so it’s nice to know I didn’t pass it on to my daughter. Stay positive. I am a “newbie” too. Just found out in June. Had surgery this month. And healing still. Radiation is set for September. I really don’t know what to make of it all still. When i get overwhelmed, i paint. So needless to say, I’ve been painting a lot. :)) please take care. I haven’t told many people. Just a handful so far. My circle is small. I’m trying to protect my daughter. My sister died from uterine cancer. I had i believe a lumpectomy? A partial removal. I believe stage 1? Trying to process it. My mother in law had the same. She is a world of comfort and tells me it’s hard but you have to. And i trust her. She has gotten me through so much already. Even my divorce but we remain very close. I haven’t even told my own mother. She would just cry and i would feel I would have to help comfort her which is a bit too much for me at this time. My ex is my best friend these days. Long story but seems they have been my strength so far.
Hang in there. And stay strong. I’m glad i read your story. Being kind is important. Patience is not my forte. But I’m trying. :)) i read a lot as well. But mostly painting.
Hi. I was diagnosed with Invasive Lobular Breast Cancer about a year ago. I have been through the genetics testing, the full body scans, you name it and I have been pricked and prodded!! While my biopsy of the breast originally showed me as Her2 negative, a more intense test showed that I am actually Her2 positive. So, I have had chemo, then surgery (mastectomy of right breast), where they were unable to remove all of the cancer….and found my lymph nodes were also cancerous. I then had to have radiation. I am now trying to figure out how to live with cancer…I am not there yet. I wish both of you calm and peace. This is so hard. AND IT IS JUST NOT FAIR! Since I am a bit ahead of you on treatments, if you have any questions, I will offer my experiences. Susan
Hi all, well I was just diagnosed this week with Invasive Ductal also. Dr said that I have a triple neg for the types. Don’t really know what stage yet other than being told its aggressive and I will need the chemo first before removal. going for the Brain CT on Mon. And have had the genetic test but haven’t received results yet should hear next week. I do know of 2 cysts one is small and the other is around 5cm both bad.
My father, sister, and a niece all past of different types of cancer. I would have to say it was hardest to tell my husband who had lost his mom to breast cancer when she was 50. Im 59. Also my 3 daughters because I knew how hard they would take it. But if really did help to tell them. Afterward I have told the others that I know. I didnt think I would want to have all the comments or such while trying to figure all this out. But it actually helps. I am a believer, and know God has a plan, I may not understand it, I may not even think it fair. But he has a reason, and I will leave it in his control. I will keep you all in my prayers too as it sounds that even after going through it we will still be trying to understand it.
The only thing I know about triple negative cancer is you won’t be put on an Estrogen blocker since your tumor wasn’t being fed by any hormones. My suggestion, if you haven’t already have your daughters talk with their doctors. You, in my opinion should have genetic testing done and no I am not a doctor. Take care, Betti
HI all, I was diagnosed with Invasive DC in April this year. two lumps, one I had for several years known as a fibrocyst, and cancer was found not on mammogram but with a biopsy by my very excellent surgeon. I was misdiagnosed in the beginning with HER2+, due to a bad stain on the sample, so I was terrified in the beginning. I was having anxiety attacks, feeling depressed. As a very active and healthy person, I was in shock and disbelief. Many scans later there is no evidence of spread, and I am nearing the end of treatment, looking forward, well sort of, to double mastectomy. I am the fifth woman out of 13 in three generations with this diagnosis. I still need to do genetic testing for my two daughters. It is a roller coaster ride but with the strides made in curing this disease there is no reason any one of us should not be able to live full lives and stay healthy for years to come. Blessings of Peace and Contentment to you all.